One of the most difficult things to do after divorce is to let go and move on emotionally. This means letting go of all of the pain, anger and hurt your spouse has caused you.
It sounds easier than it is.
So just how to you let go of those negative feelings towards your ex?
You must remember: accept and forgive. It doesn’t mean you want to go back and live it over. It doesn’t mean you would keep the marriage together.
It means you can move on with your own life, and live with the fact that your ex is doing the same thing.
Your ex-spouse’s life is meant to take a different path. If you have children then you will always be part of each other’s lives. But you will be able to detach and view your ex as the parent of your children instead of as your spouse. A new relationship will emerge.
The roles are different. You choose how you are going to play this out.
You can deal with your spouse either with kindness and understanding, having truly put the pain of divorce behind you, or you can harbor ill feelings and hang on to old hurts and feelings of betrayal.
The choice is yours. Choose wisely. One road leads to peace and serenity and the other to anger, frustration, and pain.
This is your time of refection and soul-searching. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
You will reach it. Right now you may not be able see past the hurt, anger, and pain.
But trust me, life will become joyful and complete once again.
You get to decide the life you want to have. Don’t turn bitter. It may be the easy path now, but later on it will be the hard road, and there won’t be any exits.
How you see your divorce is the most essential choice you will make.
I now see my divorce for the many gifts it has brought to my life. Amidst the pain and sorrow, I learned some tremendous life lessons.
Now I can bring these into my new life and create a more compelling future. Listen to your heart. Trust in the knowledge that you will survive this devastating loss.
You will survive divorce and thrive again.
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